I’m reading an amazing book right now – You Are A BadAss At Making Money by Jen Sincero and if you haven’t read anything by her, I highly recommend you do. I started with her book, You Are A BadAss…she gives you real talk about getting real with yourself about your dreams and manifesting them…for reals. I appreciate her dialogue and I really want to be friends with her, but that’s another story.
In my reading this morning I was inspired by something she wrote that I think so many of us can relate to. “When you choose freedom and happiness over wanting to be right or to be seen, you win. Get out of victim mode.” This really resonated with me because I think we are all so consumed daily with where we need to be, what is going on in our lives, and what we need to do that we forget that others also have their own needs, wants, and busy schedules. I mean, how easy is it to get so pissed off about that guy that just cut you off on the freeway and is now going soooo slow…doesn’t he know you’re late to work?! The injustice! Often, we feel the need to post our “tragedy” on social media, text our friend letting them know our “pain”, or tell our co-workers our story of our tardiness. We want to be heard, we want others to think of our needs, we want others to feel sorry for us.
Well, frankly, that needs to stop. It’s so easy to get consumed with the woe is me attitude, but guess what? We ALL are dealing with injustice, pain, and difficulty and if we stopped complaining about it and put a smile on our faces it’s amazing how quickly these minor incidences fade away. I mean do you really remember that guy that cut you off last week, last month, last year? It’s not important in the grand scheme of things so let it go. You are only doing yourself a disservice harnessing the negativity – allowing disease into your body.
I mean, I’m not trying to act like I am holier than thou and so easy-going. I remember a time when I would let myself get consumed by these things, but you know what? I also wasn’t happy – not happy with my job, where I was in life, not happy with myself. I complained about stuff…too much stuff, but I made the decision to make a change and I work daily to let the ish go and now I’m such a different person and so incredibly happy, like permagrin happy, and so much healthier! Choosing to let it go and realizing it really isn’t about being right or seen or even letting others know you are right or were seen is you ultimately winning…your health, happiness, and freedom of choice. I like winning. 🙂